One of my rituals for each new year is to choose a word to influence me for the year. My word for 2011 is EXPERIMENT. To support my EXPERIMENTAL focus, I commit to post the results of a new experiment each Sunday of this year.
So this week’s experiment was a challenge ~ a very good challenge.
This week I chose NOT to disagree with anyone.
It’s not that I like to pick fights. I just think my opinion is worth at least as much as another person’s~ especially when they’re WRONG 🙂 .
Please note, this experiment did not involve agreeing when I didn’t. It simply involved NOT disagreeing.
It was a serendipitous week to choose this experiment. This week I got to speak with a lawyer representing someone who owes me $14,000. I also got to speak with a representative from my computer’s technical support team. And I had the joy of speaking with a ‘Customer Satisfaction Manager’ from my health insurance company.
Those conversations weren’t very agreeable.
And thanks to this experiment, they weren’t DISagreeable, either.
Here’s what I learned when disagreeing is removed from the table:
- finding resolution becomes more important that being RIGHT;
- listening becomes more important than being heard;
- recognizing potential common ground becomes easier (albeit not always EASY); and
- I breathe more deeply.
This experiment will stay with me. It was humbling. It was constructive. It felt honest.
What does this experiment stir in you?