My word for this year is LEARN.
So it just makes sense to use this Year of Sundays to reflect on 52 of my most significant Life Lessons. Some may seem more significant than others, but each one has changed how I live my life in powerful way. I’d love to hear if and how any of these same lessons have surfaced in the classroom of Your Life.
Fight fair (or for my English Major pals – fight fairLY).
I don’t know a lot of people who love conflict. It’s a fact of life though. Humans disagree. We also, often, react in defensive and self-focussed ways when we do.
One of the ways I knew Tom was my partner was that, when we do fight, we can always fight our way all the way to the middle of the REAL reason we’re fighting AND we can fight our way all.the.way.out.of The Fight. We don’t fight or fuss much. We NEVER like it when we do.
Not long ago, we made a covenant to take turns taking responsibility for bringing us all the way through and out of any fights we have. That means, before one of us chooses to stick a pencil in the other one’s eye, the one whose turn it is has to say (something to the effect of…) – “OK, it’s my turn, so let’s do this.”
It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.
Years ago, I read about a couple who promised they would always hold hands whenever they fought. I’m not sure that would work for Tom and me, but it works for that couple. So I say YAY.
I’ve beyond grateful that Tom’s my partner. I’m also grateful it’s his turn next ;). Mostly, I’m just.plain.grateFULL.
How do you fight fair(LY)?
2 thoughts on “boxing gloves made with love…”
i received more private messages about this post that any i’ve ever posted. yep, fighting is tough ~ especially when the goal is not to have a winner. i send you all deep and humble THANKS.
Hate it when we fight….always like it when it’s over. ALWAYS love you through it all. And ALWAYS glad you love me through it all. Life is often hard, love is often harder. So glad…and thankful… I have you to love me. I am truly blessed to have you.